Till death do us part!!!

Till death do us part doesn't mean ''till u kill me or i kill u''. We women are taught by our mothers that we must endure and be patient, but are we to endure unto death??  At what stage do we call a donkey, a donkey instead of ''enduring'' and trusting that it ll become a horse one day.

U guys know enuf about me (for now) so my post for the next few days will be about matters of the heart, LOVE or rather what we go through in the name of love. Will gladly post any write up sent to me.

Today's write up was sent in by my ''friend's friend'' who is a lawyer, hope u guys enjoy and learn from it. (yes i know.......its long but ......just keep reading)

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Hello ladies & gentlemen,

Pardon me if this piece bothers you as I cannot help but share my views on this thought-provoking issue of protecting women against all forms of abuse. By now, you will be well aware of one Titilayo Arowolo that was brutally stabbed to death on the 24th of June 2011 by her husband Kolade Arowolo. It was one of the many sad events of women's oppression that must not be forgotten in a hurry.

I was opportune to be in the court where Arowolo Kolade was arraigned and presently being tried before Hon. Justice Lateefat Okunnu of the ikeja criminal division of the Lagos State High Court. I meticulously observed this Man's attitude and body language all through the proceedings and there was no iota of remorse or repentance in him. All I could see in the man is a vindictive spirit with which he stabbed Titilayo and that spirit has not lost its sour taste.

I caught a glimpse of some photographs of the crime scene, particularly those of the deceased. I only managed to hold back from screaming at the mangled body of the late Titilayo. She was severely beaten before receiving multiple stab wounds! It was indeed a crime of passion! We don't know what to believe or think about the facts leading to the crime but to trust the Court to do Justice as it deems fit to Kolade who has been accused of this dastardly act of murdering a lady like us.

Ladies, women, mummies, please if you are experiencing any sort of physical or emotional torture and abuse in your relationship, courtship or marriage please take a bold step by leaving and reporting the abuse. Since mankind is created equally, then, there is no justifiable reason whatsoever to be enduring the abuse of man by man. Perfect Love covers all sins and casts out fear says the Holy Book. "Don't bother panel beating an over panel beaten car", It will fall apart in your face.
If you are remaining in an abusive relationship for the money and material comfort you get, then, you need to rethink. You may continue to have the money with the abuse, also you may lose your life like Titilayo. You could be suffocated with a pillow or simply get poisoned. The only reason Titilayo's murder became public was because of the various stabs which made it too brutal a murder to be ignored.

Children cannot be a reason to stay back. History is full of orphans who survived in life without their parental care. Societal pressure of having the status of 'Mrs somebody' should not force our hands in making a life-saving decision in the face of brutal abuse. Marriage has never been a criterion for being successful and it doesn't guarantee eternity. Please be wise!


As for Men, there is no reason whatsoever why you should hit, beat, stab or kill your wife or girlfriend. If you cannot live with her anymore, just tell her or better still take a walk. Instead of beating or ultimately killing her. Imagine the kind of stigma the Arowolo's daughter has to leave with, when her friends and school mates refer to her as "the girl whose father killed her mother"!
And to ladies and women again, please endeavour to empower yourselves. If you are emotionally unstable and cannot do without having a man in your life I suggest you seek help. If he hits you once, he will do it again and again. it is better to be single, separated or divorced than to be the subject of a criminal trial where you are referred to as the Deceased. While in the court room, Kolade Arowolo kept passing notes upon notes to his lawyer, fighting hard to defend himself but Titilayo, the poor woman is dead and cannot say anything in defence of herself.

Like I said earlier, If it is the fate of your children that scares you like most women claim, leave them and strategise on how to get them back when proper provision is in place to cater for them, then go back for them. A child's place is with a "good and caring " mother. If you are a troublesome woman, seek help and ask God to help you so that You won't provoke your husband or boyfriend to beat you to death. If you are an abusive man, you may try to pick a fight with a bus conductor or a man like yourself. Perhaps that will help! Don't transfer aggression on your wife!

May God help the single ladies to choose wisely in line with His Perfect Will and not His Permissive Will. And may God liberate every woman who is secretly or publicly enduring emotional or physical abuse all over the world. AMEN!

Please send to any woman persevering in an abusive relationship. Thank you and God bless You all.

Best regards,
Naomi Adekoya.